Holy snot!!! Could be written about my marriage and life! More wisdom per word than anybody but Gottman! Highly recommend and I don't recommend easily!
Very informative and a good start for me to understand what I have been doing and how to correct it.
Life changing every way. It helped me gain significant understanding why my old methods to resolve conflict and show my wife love just weren't working
It also explained how our old disfunctional relationship patterns just made everything worse during this season......how I made everything worse.
Hello,I read your book with great anticipation, and whilst my marital situation is not the same as anybody else, I found the book to be informative but a little repetitive. My partner ( my wife but not officially married is 49 years old, 25 years younger than me, we have 3 children aged 19, 17 and 15. She is perimenopausal and on HRT. Our relationship has evolved into a room mates scenario, no intimacy no affection, just everyday chores. She has a history of extra marital affairs over the 29 years that we have been together, so I am not unduly surprised that the relationship should have developed as it has. Your book confirmed many of thoughts and my behaviour but I have to say that it did not enlighten me nor did it provide me with any kind of positive pathway. Kindregards Andrew
This site came to me when I was in the midst of trying to figure out what I was missing to make my relationship better.
Stress and the process of 35 years of grinding away to ensure there was a safe place for wife and child has allowed me to miss some information that was not picked up.
I was at a dark space and despite months of stress and failure to address the things that were concerning to my wife I found this Item. No phone, no payment method and little hope that I can do it on my own but Mr. Mitchell has provided acccess to information that I will try to use and turn the course to a new focus.
There are no words that can say how much I have feared lost hope. With this product, I am able to express a bit of hope today. Thank you again for sharing Mr. Mitchell.
I only finished listening to it last night and will probably listen through it again at least once more and start integrating what I’ve learned immediately. I see so many parallels and similarities that this really resonated with me and I will recommend it to other husbands I think will get value out of it. It hasn’t resolved my relationship yet which is still raw but I’m more confident now in its eventual recovery in a new form than it was in before. Thank you.
The audiobooks are great. But I still haven’t received my paperback books I ordered last month.
Mike
I really enjoyed the book, "UsAgain". Much of what James wrote validated a lot of what I have been thinking and feeling and it also helped me to open up to new ideas and perspectives to approach my marriage. Thanks for writing this book!
Very good & helpful. Neil Fisher
Every page provided insight on our challenges and strategies to overcome them. The book honestly seemed to be written about our relationship.
This was such a great book, short and to the point. It really described exactly what both I and my wife have been feeling and dealing with and it has given us a sense of hope! Thank you
I would kike to read this book but the link to get it can't seem to be found anywhere that I can find....
Amazing book for couples to read and come together to discuss techniques and challenges.
Very insightful and easy to ready and gives a good look at what your significant other is dealing with.
The book was amazing!. All the things I thought I was doing right were wrong. My approach and thought process has changed. I feel better as a person and a husband knowing what to do going forward. My wife is currently reading it as well.
Good read. Helpful understanding of the issue. But unless you specifically encounter one of the few examples of how to handle things, there isn't much insight into what to do about it.
Everything I read, I have read before. What I never read is HOW to get a women back to emotional safety in the Menopause era or what the man should do other than realize it will never be truly intimate again just barely tolerable.
Seems to be AI written with a bit too many repeats of same material but the content was insightful and useful.
Lots of good information, but I’m not sure how to implement the strategies in my particular situation. I wish that there was more information about how to reconnect after several years of problems before perimenopause started. I need all the help I can get.
This book was very enlightening. After reading it, however, I thought a second title might be "Us Now", since the old "Us", if it does come back, will do so through a different lens and have a different nature to it. Even though my wife went into early menopause just over 36 years ago, some very real traits still remain and our relationship has just put scar tissue over top of them and moved on. I've spoken with her about the book, but am not sure if she will read it. I told her all the things I did wrong, and she agreed, but still left it up to me to figure things out. Unfortunately, emotional passionate distance remains, even though I can now put words to what caused it. I will do what I can, but I know it will take both of us to get to a new "Us". 46 years of marriage so far. Your book would have helped greatly all those years ago, and I'm glad it's there now for couples going through it. There are good approaches I can take now to get myself back in line, and maybe if I can get her to read it, too, we both may be able to work towards hitting the "reset" or "rewrite" button. Thank you.
Repetitive
Incredibly insightful, helpful
A must read . Insanely accurate for what we’re going through .
As a survivor of endometrial cancer that required a hysterectomy at age 53, I bought this book in hopes that it would present my issues to my husband in a way that he could understand, because I wasn't getting through to him. On my third read-through I thought to myself that I had to get my husband to read it. Knowing that it was written by a man near our age for men, he was receptive to reading it. Once he started he couldn't put it down and we had a conversation that will prove to be the turning point in the trajectory of our relationship. God Bless you, James Mitchell.
You hit so much head on. It made me see myself and also my wife Both books are helpful only if both read them. But even if only one reads it you will understand so much more
I was extremely skeptical of this because of the heavy facebook marketing. I figured it was probably just a way to cash in on insecure husbands. I actually had just gone through one of the cycles described where we fought, made-up, and were good for now but I knew we had not actually solved anything. I decided it was worth a shot and I am blown away at how accurately it describes what we are experiencing. My wife and I both agreed that we were in a vicious cycle but we were unable to keep from continuously falling into it. I don't know if this will help us stay out of the traps we had kept falling into but I am optomistic since knowledge is the first step. Thank you.
Outstanding book that diagnoses, guides, and suggests relationships; both men and women can use this book. Have listened to it many times
Good insight to help understand the process , it’s not a step solution but a learning of what’s going on with your spouse . With understanding we can be a better spouse . We must continue to follow Gods written words and not let aging reduce the Command to love one another.
Was able to read in a few hours. Helped by shedding light on what is happening with my wife.